We all want to know how to build a healthy relationship with our boyfriends, but sometimes that’s not such an easy task. There is an art and science to building strong relationships.
Here are a few tips that will help you build a long lasting relationship with your partner.
Don’t Forget to Make Time For Your Relationship
The biggest thing you need to do is make time for your relationship. Regardless of who you are or what your work is, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you schedule time for the well being of your relationship. That includes making “playdates” and also taking downtime together.
When time is too short, it’s often the relationship that will suffer. You need to learn to prioritize and make sure that no matter how busy you get, you’ll always have time for your relationship. But remember, it’s shouldn’t be an excuse to get off work. You should still go after your dreams, the key is to have balance.
Be Sure to Ask Questions Rather Than Assume Things
All to often we assume things (For example: “He doesn’t want to cuddle; he must not really love me anymore.”) and end up causing unnecessary stress in our relationships, assuming things is a major cause of most couples conflict. If you ask questions and communicate you can potential avoid those situations.
You can never ask too many questions, so don’t worry. Having a strong relationship is about communication and it’s important to hear what you think might not being said — the facts and feeling that you sense might be unspoken.
Do The Things You Did When You First Started Dating
As time goes on we tend to to start getting lazy in the relationship. We lose our patience, gentleness, thoughtfulness, understanding and the general effort we once made toward our partner.
What you should do is write down what all the things you did for your boyfriend when you first started dating and start doing them again.
Don’t Use Your Partner to Fix Yourself
Do not expect your partner to fill your emotional holes, and do not try to fill theirs. Ultimately, each of us can only heal ourselves. Your partner, however, can be supportive while you work with yourself, and you should do the same. Read: 5 Ways to Quit Replaying Painful Memories
Make Your Apologies Count
It’s well understood that apologizing is a great thing but it only makes a real impact when you mean it. Saying things like “I’m sorry you feel that way” or “I am sorry you see it that way” are a waste of time. If you don’t agree that your action was wrong, then you shouldn’t make empty apologies, it creates distrust.
Accept your partner feels harm hurt, and then you can form a real apology. When you adore your partner and can see you hurt them (by choice or not) you’re able to truly apologize for the pain you caused, regardless of your view on what you did or didn’t do.
Building a healthy relationship with your boyfriend takes time, and effort. Always remember that it’s not going to happen in a week or 2, but if you are willing to try you can have the best relationship of your life.